Murphy's Love: 
Advice on Love & Relationships

This monthly advice column has been running in The Georgetowner newspaper since 2010. The following articles were originally published by Georgetown Media Group and may be read anytime here.


To Affair or Not to Affair?

He thinks the next step is inevitable, but wonders if it's really an affair if she sees her spouse as "platonic?"

Read my answer here.


Critical Dad, Mom Must Step Up

What do you do when your husband criticizes the kids? My gentle reminder to a mom seeking advice:

All parents need to remember that our kids are little, overworked videographers. Their brains are taking in a stream of life’s dos and don’ts on a 24-hour basis. Parents are the stars of this show — at least for a little while — and we are modeling what relationships “should” look like. Kids replicate what they see. We can feel overwhelmed by this. Or we can see it as an opportunity to perform to the best of our ability and then, when we inevitably fall short, to model how to apologize and make amends. 

Read the whole article here.


Connecting Through Complaint?

How do you make friends when you find everyone annoying?

That's the basic question behind a recent advice column question - she wants to be friends with her co-workers, but she finds they gossipy and irritating. We explore the idea that women often connect through complaint. Read my take here.


Couplehood is Healing

Picture it. A new relationship. A new cancer diagnosis. A history of running from illness. What do you do? Take a look at my response here.


He's Leaving, But Wants to Protect the Kids

It's a difficult decision, but once we've made the choice to stop working on a marriage, a new kind of work is just getting started. I received a question about protecting the kids as you tell them you are getting a divorce. Take a look at the tips for doing it well.