Murphy's Love: 
Advice on Love & Relationships

This monthly advice column has been running in The Georgetowner newspaper since 2010. The following articles were originally published by Georgetown Media Group and may be read anytime here.


He Cheats. End of Story?

Another question about infidelity turned up in my Georgetowner advice column - this time, he says cheating is just what he does, and asks if there's an arrangement he and his wife can come to? My response? It may not be what you expected. Read it here.


School's Out, Time to Refresh Your Parenting Plan?

I recently came across an advice column I wrote last year regarding one parent's concerns about how the other was disciplining their children. I am posting to this piece today, because school is just about to be out for the summer around here, and many of us will be faced with more intense parenting duties once again. The bottom line is that when we criticize our partner's parenting, we are inviting him to go on the defensive. This doesn't mean we have no options and must ignore the problem, but it does mean we ought to plan out our message and be careful in our delivery. Read the whole article here.


He Can't Handle the Jealousy

Earlier this spring, I received a question for my Georgetowner newspaper advice column from a man self-aware enough to know that he could not handle the jealousy of having an open relationship with his wife, but that he was considering having an affair so he could have the sex life he really wanted. Can you guess my response? Read the whole article here.


That Old Cliche: She's Ready to Marry, and He's Not?

A recent Georgetowner advice column of mine focused on the age-old question of what to do when she's sure and he's biding his time. She's thinking about setting an ultimatum and I offer the following suggestion, "...the only way an ultimatum works – you have to be willing to accept the consequences (NOTE: have your support network queued up and ready). If you are not ready to walk away, then don’t tell him about your deadline." Read the entire article here.


Hard Work of Renewing a Marriage

A recent Georgetowner column of mine addressed the hard, hard, HARD work of repairing a relationship after infidelity. It can be hard to navigate the territory between betrayal and forgiveness - but it's never all or nothing. There are shades of gray when it comes to living with the trauma of infidelity. A quote from the column, "No, Husband doesn’t deserve to feel like a criminal every day, but he’s going to have to expect that you will be wary whenever he comes home late. That’s probably going to be part of the marriage for the rest of your lives, and it’s because of his choices, not yours." Read the entire piece here.