Murphy's Love: 
Advice on Love & Relationships

This monthly advice column has been running in The Georgetowner newspaper since 2010. The following articles were originally published by Georgetown Media Group and may be read anytime here.

Entries in marriage (22)


When is it time to leave a "co-existing" marriage?

A reader asks when is it time to leave a marriage where both partners feel like they are just trying to "co-exist."  Check out my full answer here.


Does 'Friendless Husband' Need Help?

This recent Georgetowner advice column addresses what happens when a writer marries a great guy but feels like no one else gets it. Read my full column here.


The Missing Milk Metaphor

Her husband forgets what she asks him to do. She gets angry. They feel further apart from one another. Rinse. Repeat.

Read the whole article here.



Critical Dad, Mom Must Step Up

What do you do when your husband criticizes the kids? My gentle reminder to a mom seeking advice:

All parents need to remember that our kids are little, overworked videographers. Their brains are taking in a stream of life’s dos and don’ts on a 24-hour basis. Parents are the stars of this show — at least for a little while — and we are modeling what relationships “should” look like. Kids replicate what they see. We can feel overwhelmed by this. Or we can see it as an opportunity to perform to the best of our ability and then, when we inevitably fall short, to model how to apologize and make amends. 

Read the whole article here.


He Cheats. End of Story?

Another question about infidelity turned up in my Georgetowner advice column - this time, he says cheating is just what he does, and asks if there's an arrangement he and his wife can come to? My response? It may not be what you expected. Read it here.