In recent years, I have had the joy of being a resource for two WashingtonPost.com blogs: the "Solo-ish" relationship blog and the "OnParenting" family blog.

Entries in power struggles (1)

Tuesday
Jun192012

For better and for worse and through raising the kids

Kids have their own unique way of relaunching a couple back into the same navigational power struggles that usually come at the beginning of a relationship. Janice D'Arcy and I discussed the way that kids plunge us back into old conflicts that we may have thought were over.

Here's an excerpt:

“There’s a romantic phase of parenting (mixed in with the exhausted/delirious/mommy-daddy brain phase) when we are getting our sea legs and marveling at the transition from couplehood into parenthood. But soon the power struggles sneak up, e.g. when to move a baby to her crib; how long to breastfeed; or how we handle child care arrangements.

“Increasingly, we seem to be a kid-focused culture, so it’s easy for relationship growth to be put on the backburner for a time, even years, until there’s very little left between two people to salvage.

Read the whole article here.